Hierarchy Is Necessary

The desire to struggle and find collective meaning originates from the simple relationship contract. First introductory part of a series on the social side of kink.

What was the spark that ignited your desire for kink? Was it the thrill of deviancy - to know you were doing something irregular that was so gratifying? Or was it a coping mechanism to reassert power once lost? For many, it is finding a place to assert themselves in a controlled way. Life is messy - it is hard to know what is expected of you.

BDSM can be, and often is, used for the expression of this desire.

It takes little reflection to realize that BDSM had gone mainstream. Some would say this originates in porn - and doubtless, the link between BDSM’s growth is tied to the ubiquity of free adult content, and only has been accelerated by paid personal content.

However, I would argue that porn was a no more than a sign this trend was coming - and not its origin.

In the coming months, I hope to explain to you all why the current conditions in society are ripe for BDSM and to explain the results of it becoming mainstream. I also will put forward what the community may become after the current conditions wane.